like... when i first made this one character, i had trouble pinning down her orientation bc i knew she was somewhere on the ace/aro spectrum, but none of the labels i tried out for her sounded right. and i realized that she just...does not experience attraction in a way i can describe. at least not with any existing english words. she's not demi, she's not fray, she's not lith. even alterous didn't fit... she just has feelings that neither of us know how to describe and i think that's pretty ok.